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  Chin Hing 1 TEND THE RAGING STORM WITHIN(AT WORKPLACE) ErnSzeJien Sdn Bhd45, Persiaran Cempaka Sari 50, Desa Cempaka, 31400 Ipoh, Perak, Malaysia.Tel: 05-5452918, Email:esjien@gmail.com, Website :http://esjien.blogspot.com/   © Ling Chin Hing, October 2009 All Copyright Reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrievalsystem, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying,recording and/or otherwise. This book may not be lent, resold, hired out or otherwise disposed of by way of trade in any form of binding or cover other than that which it is published without theprior consent of the publisher.  Chin Hing 2 Introduction Anger or its generic term, raging storm within is one of the seven deadly sins. Theindignation is a mere natural human mood disorders and nature's way of empowering us toretaliate our perception of an attack or threat to our well being. Ironically, the problem is notanger, but the mismanagement of anger. Once we lose control, mismanaged of  raging stormwithin occur. Consequence by anger often causes conflict in our relationships and health threat.Clayton Tucker-Ladd PhD in Psychological Self-Help cites a 1983 Psychology Today poll thatasked: If you could secretly push a button and thereby eliminate any person with norepercussions to yourself, would you press that button? Yes, said 69 percent of the males and 56percent of the women, representing tens of millions of would-be dead bosses, co-workers,spouses and lovers and ex’s, family members, neighbors, politicians, telemarketers, movie stars,news reporters with bad wigs, reality game show contestants, and lawyers who appear onGeraldo. Anger in workplace Charles Spielberger PhD in a brochure published by the American PsychologicalAssociation say, Anger is an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation tointense fury and rage. Workplace is the most common ground our rage were mismanaged. Each day we begunwork routine under the watchful eye of our immediate superior as to ensure consistent work performance are achieved. Objective driven and the passion to complete assigned tasks were theprimary focus. However, when thing doesn’t go our way, we find ourselves overpowered by this raging storm within . The outburst became stressful when project deadline and delays wereunkempt. In retaliation to stress, adrenaline and cortisol were pumped into the body system,  Chin Hing 3priming our physical body for flight or fight. The repercussions arouse a powerful aggressivefeelings and behaviors. Escalating anger and stress, it successfully stoked one another and wefind ourselves yielded to the process of rages out of control. The excess adrenaline and cortisolset off a torrent of destructive cellular reactions that result in the brain being unable to cope.From rage, chest tightness, excruciating pain and breathing unevenness began mounting and ledto numerous health threat such as heavy sweating, high blood pressure and if severe, cardiacarrest, stroke or unconsciousness due to lack of oxygen going through our nervous system. Knowing how to keep cool can help you stay calm With danger lurks from the anger aftermath, keeping cool is the next best thing to do.Deep breathing, effective communication and content heart does help to tend the Raging Stormwithin . If you are involved in dealing with difficult peers or having ill manner-relationship withimmediate superior, it is good to learn these techniques:1.   Deep breathing techniques (Instill an absence of displeasure or hostility). Our brainrequires the right amounts of oxygen and carbon dioxide for clear thinking. With shallowand slow breathing, it produces calmness. To achieve that, we must learn to walk awayby tactfully excuse ourselves from the anger-breeding scene. Many times we give in toour urge to fight before we have time to think through what we are going to say or do.Find a secluded place within the premise. Get a chair to comfortably settle down or liedown on the floor. Then, place one hand on your abdomen and one hand on your chest.Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose into your abdomen to push up your hand asmuch as you feel comfortable, then a slight pause, and exhale through your mouth,making a quiet, breezy sound as you gently blow out and then another slight pause. Dothis for three to twenty minutes depending on the level of your rage. During the process,  Chin Hing 4center the thought to nothingness. Hear the sound and feel the texture of breathing as youbecome more and more relaxed. With such remedy, we could easily dissolve the worstthoughts or frantic mental activity, so that we can buy ourselves a few precious secondsbefore doing something irretrievably stupid!2.   Effective communication (Think before we speak and listen before we responddefensively). Once we had taken time to cool off and decided that we are going to dosomething, communicating correctly is extremely important. But, this time, with rationalmind. Avoid attacking our peer because once they think we are attacking them, they willautomatically be put on defense. Once the other person is on defense we have lost thembecause they will not be listening to what we have to say, but only thinking of ways todefend themselves against our attacks. During the conversation, make sure we listen tothe other person because chances are their points are just as valid as yours. Don't interruptand repeat what the other person had to say back to them once they are done speaking.This way will promote clearer understanding between the sender and recipient. After weare done repeating the message, ask the other person to repeat what we had said as toensure they understood us.3.   Content heart (Letting go the conflict with loving kindness and sympathetic mind). Donot keep tally on the conflict. Sad to say, our failure to forgive and forget are hindered byour worst enemies i.e., inflated egos. Therefore, think of ourselves as ego-less withinfinite compassion toward the people who attribute to the anger. Once you have the aircleared, forgive the other person for what they did; thereafter, forgetting it has ever takenplace. We must do this in order to move on with our daily life without any excessbaggage being carried on the shoulders. This is the most important step of them all
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